Dating Failure

Dating Failure

With so many people in the world, you would think that dating would be easy. But there are many people who have given up completely on finding someone. I have found that there is a continuing thread of excuses that people use to get out of the dating scene. One of the reoccurring is a person’s physical limitation. What you may see as an imperfection may be someone’s idea of beautiful. So don’t let yourself get caught up in what is in the mirror that you don’t like. And go out there and let others make up their own minds.

Old Age is another one. People as young as 28 and 30 are saying that they are getting too old to date. But this simply isn’t true. The rate of marriages of people over 40 is increasing every year. Sure it may not have been that way 30 years ago. But times change, and we must adapt.

Many single parents use their kids as an excuse not to see other people. But think about the other single parents, they may want to hook up with someone who has experienced the same troubles. You may be the perfect person for them.

It’s very easy to give up on people and dating, if you have been treated badly in the past. But mishaps didn’t stop you from learning to ride a bike, or from climbing you favourite tree. Nor should it stop you from dating. Find out what the other person is looking for, tell them what you do and don’t want. Be direct, it’s easier than being by you at the dinner table.

People use the shyness excuse all the time. We’ve all chickened out cause we were just too shy. The easy way to approach this is to just be you. Pretend the person is a long lost friend. These things may take time to perfect. But it does get so much easier with time.

Its sounds like I am repeating myself. It sounds that way to myself as well. But repitition is something that could even help, rather than hinder. Just treat everyday the same. Don’t shy away from people. Embrace life and the possibilities that await you around every turn. If there is something you don’t want to do, don’t do it. But don’t complain when nothing happens. You need to put in what you hope to get out.

There is someone out there for everyone. Sometimes we just have to spend a little more time and use a little more effort to find them.